By: Luscious Mother
Mama, it’s us. The women of LUMO, coming to share wisdom and maternally-fueled career and leadership goodness.
Last week we posed the question:
What did you learn about work from motherhood?
This week’s answers are FIRE.
LUMO Coach Jayme said: Motherhood taught me to set my priorities in alignment with my values.
Before, it was all about what others needed from me, or what the industry said I should be doing, or what external timelines proclaimed. When I realized that my dreams were straining my relationship with my daughter and overtaxing my support system, I had to reevaluate this thing I thought I wanted. I found that I didn’t even really want much of the crap I was hustling for. It’s still a work in progress, but I now have a more grounded place to choose from and a healthier gauge for when I’m doin’ too much.
Our Chief Administrative Officer, Elena, shared: Being a mother taught me how to be OK with unpredictability…and also, I learned that things don’t always happen on my timeline.
I truly could not control every aspect of how life played out; from the location of my daughter’s birth, to what I wanted to wear to work (it turns out that massive spit ups while you’re walking out the door are a thing!) Also, no matter how much I plan or how hard I work, my kids are always going to be unpredictable – they are small humans, after all. This has helped me to be a more empathetic and compassionate leader at work.
From LUMO Coach, Jenn: For me becoming a mother was a different experience as I didn’t walk out of the hospital with my baby, Liam.
Liam was stillborn at 38 weeks. After working through the grief, sadness, and terrible loss of all the dreams and memories I did not have the chance to create, the lessons I receive from his brief 9 months with me as his mom are countless:
Take care of yourself first. Ask for what you need.
Have compassion and empathy for everyone as we don’t know what people are facing each day.
Use all your vacation time – it is the play/recess part of your compensation. T
ake time to be in authentic relationships with your co-workers and know them each personally.
Get supported every day. Work to play, and play to live.
These responses blew our hair back. We are so grateful to have a compassionate, generous and POWERFUL team to share their experiences.
The Luscious Mother LUMO Team
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