By: Luscious Mother
Sarah here. When I was a new Mom, I called my dear friend Elizabeth with some concerns about my parenting.
“I’m just so afraid I’m going to mess her up.”
Elizabeth laughed at me kindly. “You are 100% going to mess her up,” she said. “Don’t worry about it. Do your best. Come from love.”
From an intellectual perspective, I understand that I can’t get everything right as a parent, because what is “right” anyway? I mean, whose version of right? Mine and Matt’s–we get to say. But sometimes what we know and believe in our minds doesn’t make it all the way down to our hearts. And it definitely doesn’t always come out of our mouths! But if we can quiet our brains long enough, our hearts will guide us.
This reminds me of what’s going on in the world right now and why so many of us have stayed quiet for so long on issues of race. We know what’s in our hearts, but we don’t want to speak because we are so afraid to say something wrong. We’re afraid to mess up. Elizabeth’s words ring truer now more than ever. I am going to mess it up. We are going to mess it up. And that’s okay. Because we can clean it up. We will grow from the messing up. Important conversations will come from the messing up. All the mess ups can be mended in the end, if we come from love.
I just completed my second to last weekend as a leader and trainer with Accomplishment Coaching. It was a long two days with many hard conversations about how we show up around race as coaches, and our blind spots–as a company and as individuals–and all in service of growth and transformation. Was it comfortable? Nope. Did we mess it up? We sure did. Real good. And because we were coming from deep in our hearts, and not our fearful brains, we were able to get vulnerable, clean it up and have some life-changing conversations.
Show up. Speak up. Stay in your heart. Come from love.
That’s how powerful change happens. Are you ready to get messy? We’re here if you need help.
With love + Lusciousness,
Sarah + Anna
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